5 WAYS TO DEAL WITH TODDLER TANTRUMS
I'm a mom of a toddler, sometimes it can be frustrating dealing with toddler tantrums. Whether you are a stay at home or working moms, dealing with tantrums of your toddlers can be challenging. Here are the few ways as how i deal with my toddler tantrums, hope it helps.
1. Talk it out
Talking can sometimes help in understanding the underlying cause for the trouble. This is an effective way when its already started but not fully blown.
Ask gently "can you please tell me what is wrong?"
This positive approach can work sometimes but not very often.
Try some gestures that your child likes, or giving a warm hug, can soften things.
There are times we were in a position that being mom is the toughest job, your not alone. Most of the parents go through the same. I want my kids to know how to express, be it in words or gestures. This is very important. When a child can express a feeling, it is much easier for the parents to sort out.
2. Listen
Try to listen to whatever your child says, be it silly or something that happened at school or daycare. Toddlers always want to share to their parents ,sometimes when we don't give proper attention or when we don't listen to their stories, they are likely to express tantrum in later days.
being a mom or dad makes you feel great but sometimes it could make you worst. More than a child , parents have to balance their emotions when dealing with tantrums. There are times were i yell at my child and soon i realize 'why did i behave to my child this way' and makes me think i am a worst parent. I understand its hard to balance all the emotions and be like a calm sea, whereas for kids of younger age its even more difficult.
3. Distract
Distraction, this works best for my toddler, for most of the time, when she is irritated, i try to distract her. My toddler loves singing, so she has a couple of her favorite songs, so the moment i guess the tantrum is popping out, i distract her asking about her friends at school and i try to bring out some of her favorite memories like " remember we watched the sea lion in the aquarium" or i start to sing her favorite song and then she tries to sing along with me.
Distraction works best in most of the case, it sometimes makes the child to forget something that bothers him or her.
4. Ignore
When above all doesn't seem to work, just ignore, yes just ignore. Ignoring can sometimes prevent the kids getting exaggerated. Keep your cool and ignore which can help them calm down as they knew mommy is serious. If your child wont calm down and you know the tantrum is to get your attention, don't give way. Even if you had to walk through all the aisle in the supermarket with screaming toddler, just ignore. Eventually she will know that you are serious and this will not work.
5. Avoid electronic devices before bedtime
This is something every modern parents need to be watchful. Growing up i never had any electronic devices until i reached college. But now,that's not the case. Every toddler holds one, the blue lights from these electronic devices can harm your child's REM sleeping cycle. Believe it or not this is 100% true. Let your child flex his arms, speed up his muscles by playing rather than holding a tablet. When they don't get proper sleep or food, they are more likely to express tantrum.
Well, sometimes you had to choose which one is likely to battle for. You would rather let your child scream for 30 minutes or let watch TV for another 10 minutes?.
Above all they grow up fast, every little things be it a tantrums or sweet somethings all counts towards creating memories. So enjoy your child's toddler hood as much as you can.
Happy Parenting!
1. Talk it out
Talking can sometimes help in understanding the underlying cause for the trouble. This is an effective way when its already started but not fully blown.
Ask gently "can you please tell me what is wrong?"
This positive approach can work sometimes but not very often.
Try some gestures that your child likes, or giving a warm hug, can soften things.
There are times we were in a position that being mom is the toughest job, your not alone. Most of the parents go through the same. I want my kids to know how to express, be it in words or gestures. This is very important. When a child can express a feeling, it is much easier for the parents to sort out.
2. Listen
Try to listen to whatever your child says, be it silly or something that happened at school or daycare. Toddlers always want to share to their parents ,sometimes when we don't give proper attention or when we don't listen to their stories, they are likely to express tantrum in later days.
being a mom or dad makes you feel great but sometimes it could make you worst. More than a child , parents have to balance their emotions when dealing with tantrums. There are times were i yell at my child and soon i realize 'why did i behave to my child this way' and makes me think i am a worst parent. I understand its hard to balance all the emotions and be like a calm sea, whereas for kids of younger age its even more difficult.
3. Distract
Distraction, this works best for my toddler, for most of the time, when she is irritated, i try to distract her. My toddler loves singing, so she has a couple of her favorite songs, so the moment i guess the tantrum is popping out, i distract her asking about her friends at school and i try to bring out some of her favorite memories like " remember we watched the sea lion in the aquarium" or i start to sing her favorite song and then she tries to sing along with me.
Distraction works best in most of the case, it sometimes makes the child to forget something that bothers him or her.
4. Ignore
When above all doesn't seem to work, just ignore, yes just ignore. Ignoring can sometimes prevent the kids getting exaggerated. Keep your cool and ignore which can help them calm down as they knew mommy is serious. If your child wont calm down and you know the tantrum is to get your attention, don't give way. Even if you had to walk through all the aisle in the supermarket with screaming toddler, just ignore. Eventually she will know that you are serious and this will not work.
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5. Avoid electronic devices before bedtime
This is something every modern parents need to be watchful. Growing up i never had any electronic devices until i reached college. But now,that's not the case. Every toddler holds one, the blue lights from these electronic devices can harm your child's REM sleeping cycle. Believe it or not this is 100% true. Let your child flex his arms, speed up his muscles by playing rather than holding a tablet. When they don't get proper sleep or food, they are more likely to express tantrum.
Well, sometimes you had to choose which one is likely to battle for. You would rather let your child scream for 30 minutes or let watch TV for another 10 minutes?.
Above all they grow up fast, every little things be it a tantrums or sweet somethings all counts towards creating memories. So enjoy your child's toddler hood as much as you can.
Happy Parenting!
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